When a man is angry, he abuses himself

　　Life is about different things happening all the time. Good things can't always happen. We are helpless but we have to live. Life is full of challenges. This is how life is. We have to go through a series of life events such as birth, schooling, work, and marriage. Especially for men, the burden will be heavier.

　　The compulsory course set by society for men is "to produce achievements", and now some people also call it "to produce benefits". But neither "achievements" nor "benefits" are easy to "get".

　　Therefore, we often see many men exhausted and looking for opportunities almost at all costs. It seems that men have no status at all. Only by trying their best to "win" can they stand up. Compared with women's innate biological characteristics, it is too difficult for men! In terms of emotions, men seem to have been practicing a kind of "condensation" all their lives: they must not shed tears, and even the old saying goes, "Men do not shed tears easily"; they cannot complain about suffering, otherwise they will be accused of being "weak".

　　Someone once said that it is the social role stipulations and the biological role stipulations that "conspire" to torment men, so the average life span of men is much lower than that of women. Although this statement is a bit extreme, it is not unreasonable.

　　However, no matter how many "difficulties" and "sufferings" men have, life must continue. Bravely facing the challenges of life, trying to adapt to the environment, and adjusting their emotions is what men should do.

　　Being angry is abusing yourself

　　Anger is a situation we often encounter in life, and even "I'm so angry" is a common spoken expression. Whether they are arguing with their boss in the company or being silenced by their "unreasonable" wives at home, men usually sit alone in the corner and sulk. That kind of frustration and loss is difficult to express in words. In fact, how can there be so much anger?

　　An American sociologist once said in a book called "Anger, the Much Misunderstood Emotion": "Anger is not an innate emotion or behavior, but a learned one. People decide for themselves whether they are angry or not. ”In other words, people can control their anger. This is why some people are furious about the same thing, while others are content and don't take it to heart at all. Therefore, as long as you understand that being angry is something you have trouble with yourself and is self-abuse, you will naturally not let yourself get "angry to death" often, unless you regard anger as the spice of life.

　　Being angry means punishing yourself for other people's mistakes. Don't always talk about being angry. Buddhism says: "Diseases originate from the mind." You always say that you are in a bad mood, and you always say that you are going to be angry to death. As time goes by, you cannot adjust your mentality. Take it easy. Learn to regulate your emotions on your own.