Revealed: Why men don’t praise their wives after marriage

　　Before marriage, men like to pursue beautiful girls. But when they get married, they don't want their wives to dress up anymore, and sometimes they are dissatisfied: "We are already married, why do we dress up so beautifully?" ”The Shandong Academy of Social Sciences recently conducted a survey of 1,700 married people male The survey found that Jinan men are still in the "primary stage" in terms of acceptance of makeup, and they prefer wives who don't wear makeup.

　　Xiao Ru is a beautiful girl who had many suitors when she was single. In the end, she chose the eloquent Da Li because he always spoke sweetly to Xiao Ru, making her feel that she was particularly valued. But after getting married, Xiaoru discovered that her husband rarely praised her appearance and temperament anymore. He often turned a blind eye to her when she dressed up beautifully, and complained about her frequent purchases of clothes and cosmetics. Xiao Ru is very puzzled. Doesn't he love herself anymore? In fact, Xiaoru's worries are somewhat unfounded.

　　Married men are more realistic

　　After marriage, a man's psychology towards his wife's enthusiasm for dressing up will undergo subtle changes. Just as the advantages before marriage turn into disadvantages, it is not the behavior that changes, but the psychology.

　　But men are often afraid to admit their worries and vulnerabilities. When they feel unsafe, they rarely communicate openly with their wives to gain reassurance. On the contrary, they will treat their wives with an attitude of neglect, dissatisfaction or even blame, hoping that she will no longer attract attention.

　　In addition, after marriage, men generally turn from romance to reality and pay more attention to family expenses, which also becomes a reason for them to prevent their wives from spending a lot of money on dressing up. Moreover, in the eyes of men, a wife who cannot calm down to take care of her husband and raise children after marriage does not meet the standards of a good wife and mother after all.

　　“A beautiful wife can also grow old

　　However, you must know that a woman who puts no pressure on a man will only make him tired. Moreover, the necessary grooming by a woman is also good for the body and mind. healthy and develop self-confidence. Therefore, a woman should have a certain degree of judgment and autonomy, and should not blindly resist or obey her husband's opinions. She should take the time to have a good talk with him to understand his real thoughts. If you blindly obey your husband in order to avoid conflicts, it will not only damage your self-esteem, but also make the relationship between husband and wife superficial, lacking sincere understanding and communication.

　　And if husbands can bravely express their true thoughts and not hide their vulnerability, they will get more sincere rewards, and their beautiful wives can still be "safe".

　　Men’s sense of security is causing trouble

　　This mentality of men is very common and can be attributed to their "ugly wife mentality". Generally speaking, young and beautiful girls are more attractive to men, which can be said to be an evolutionary inheritance. In addition, chasing beautiful women will give you "face", and vanity also plays a role. Therefore, they will spend a lot of time pursuing beautiful girls, praising them for their beauty, and even generously spending money to buy clothes, etc. to please them. At this time, from the perspective of an appreciator, men feel that women are like exquisite works of art, pleasing to the eye and extremely attractive and charming.

　　However, once a man marries a beautiful girl home and his sense of vanity is satisfied, his sense of security becomes dominant, and he only seeks to be ordinary. People say, "A family has three treasures: an ugly wife, a poor field, and a worn-out cotton-padded jacket." If no one covets her, it means there is a sense of security. “A glass of wine can relieve worries, and an ugly woman can make her hair grow old." These proverbs also illustrate the same truth.