What should you pay attention to during postpartum sex life

Why is it easy to bleed during the first sexual intercourse postpartum?

1. It is related to the time to resume sexual life: it usually takes 7 days for the episiotomy wound to heal and the sutures to be removed. At this time, the surface tissue of the perineum has healed, but it will take 6-8 weeks for the deep muscle layer and fascia to be repaired. If you resume sexual life too early, it can cause the wound to crack and bleed.

2. It is related to the general condition of the mother: When the mother suffers from anemia, malnutrition or inflammation of the vaginal perineum, the healing of the perineal wound can be delayed.

3. It is related to the wound suture situation: In addition to the perineal epidermis being sutured with silk thread, the inner muscles and subcutaneous fat layer are all sutured with catgut. Since there are obvious individual differences in the absorption of catgut by human tissues, issues such as the quality of the catgut and whether the perineum is strictly disinfected will also affect the absorption of human tissues.

4. Related to the husband: Since the man abstains from sex for a long time when his wife is in the late pregnancy and puerperium, once the couple resumes life, they often move violently, which can easily cause perineal tissue damage, bleeding, and cracking.

What should we pay attention to during postpartum sex life?

Women often fear pregnancy after giving birth, so it is best to take contraceptive measures so that they can gradually return to normal sex life. One thing to remind husbands to pay attention to is that due to the insufficient role of hormones secreted by the ovaries after childbirth, the softness and elasticity of the vaginal mucosa are poor. Therefore, you must choose a suitable position during sexual intercourse and move gently to avoid damage.

Why is postpartum sexual frigidity?

Women Postpartum sexual desire decline has both physiological and psychological reasons, the more important of which is psychological. The specific analysis mainly includes the following aspects:

First, start sexual life too early. After a woman gives birth, the changes in her body and reproductive system caused by pregnancy and childbirth will have a certain inhibitory effect on her sexual desire. Generally, it takes two months after delivery for various organs to return to normal and sexual desire to gradually return to the state before pregnancy. If you start sexual life too early after childbirth, especially if some husbands "go their own way" without their wives' reluctance. This not only affects the wife's physical recovery, but also causes her to be disgusted and disgusted with sexual life, which may lead to sexual frigidity.

The second is overwork. After a woman gives birth, if she does not get the help of her husband and family members when taking care of her children, her physical and energy will be excessive, which will naturally affect her "sexual" interest.

The third is reproductive system diseases. Some women leave scars due to vulva and vaginal tears during childbirth, which reduces the sexual sensitivity of the vagina or narrows the vagina, causing pain during sexual intercourse; some women experience sexual discomfort due to postpartum complications of endometriosis or chronic pelvic inflammatory disease; and some women suffer from gynecological diseases such as trichomonas, fungal vaginitis, etc., which can also suppress their sexual desire to varying degrees.

The fourth is psychological barriers. Research has found that during the postpartum recovery period, women begin to reject sexual intercourse psychologically because they worry that intercourse may infect wounds; some women do not take effective contraceptive measures after giving birth and are always wary of having sex because of the fear of pregnancy; and many women are concerned about the changes in their body shape after giving birth. She is very dissatisfied and worried that her husband will not like her body as before. In addition, after a woman gives birth, she will usually devote herself to childcare. Even when communicating with her husband, the topic will revolve around the child, thereby losing the sexual needs that a woman should have, which will also lead to a decrease in "sexual" interest.

How to eliminate postpartum sexual life obstacles?

There will also be sexual difficulties after childbirth. Most mothers will gradually want to regain the pleasure of orgasm; while husbands are eager to experience "sex in a variety of ways" with their wives that they did not do during pregnancy. The disharmony in sexual life occurs due to the difference in the psychological recovery speed of the couple. But you must pay attention to being gentle when entering your wife's body. If you use lubricant, the effect will be better.

After giving birth, the sexual life between couples will reach the "third peak" of love. The first sexual peak is during the honeymoon, which is called the "love period of indistinguishable water and fire." The second peak is the pregnancy period, this time it is the "love period of water and fire". And the third peak, how to compare it? This feeling can be said to be the feeling when falling in love.

When falling in love, relationships between lovers will not happen immediately. They will first shake hands with each other, and then when shaking hands becomes a habit, they will develop into caressing behaviors; for example, from kissing to kissing. Because the mother's body has not fully recovered, her sexual life after childbirth should also follow the same principles as when she was in love.