How do middle-aged couples lead a sexual life?

　　The most important thing is communication. When you are in a relationship with your significant other, say what you think, feel, and need, and honestly tell the other person, "My body is getting older, and there are physical and psychological changes." It is also beneficial to read relevant articles frequently. From it, you can get many suggestions to compensate for the physical and energetic changes, such as sensual massage, switching foreplay techniques and changing tricks, which will all be helpful.

　　How does aging change sexual status?

　　right male Generally speaking, testosterone is a key factor in sexual response. Testosterone levels peak in men around age 20 and then gradually decrease. By age 60 to 65, most men's sexual response changes dramatically due to testosterone. If the penis takes longer to become erect or the erection is not firm enough, it will also take longer to reach orgasm. At the same time, a chemical that maintains the engorged state of the penis is also decreasing, and its action time is shortening.

　　female After entering the age of 50, the estrogen produced by the body gradually decreases, the receptivity to the sexual needs of the partner is greatly reduced, and it is difficult to have a high sexual desire.

　　After being together for many years, what kind of sex healthy The most prominent problem?

　　I think the most common problem is mismatched sexual desire cycles and difficulty maintaining passion. Of course, this doesn't mean the end of intimacy. On the contrary, this can be an opportunity to strengthen your relationship - as long as you actively ask for help.

　　One party is passionate and the other party is restless. What would you suggest?

　　The phenomenon of one person wanting something but the other not wanting it is called polarization. It is important that both parties are aware of the issue. If one party often avoids the other, they should occasionally take the initiative, and they will naturally get used to it over time; if one party often takes the initiative, they should continue to maintain a positive attitude. It is often said that men feel intimate through sex, and women need sex to feel intimate. Therefore, couples need to find a middle point.

　　If one party is sick and the other party has to take care of daily life, how should the sexual relationship be adjusted?

　　The sick partner always puts sexual needs behind treatment or survival. Pain, discomfort, medications, etc., can all overwhelm sexual needs. The sexual needs of the one who takes care of them will also be covered up by busyness and pressure. At this time, both parties should understand the changes in the relationship between the sexes and use more sexual behaviors such as touching, kissing, and sweet talking. When both parties are in good physical strength and mood, you can arrange a gentle sex life, mainly in side-lying and other postures that do not require physical strength.

　　What are the most common questions asked by people over 50?

　　“What is normal?” This is the question I hear most. We have very broad standards for “normal,” and they vary from person to person and from relationship to relationship. I think it's more important to ask yourself what is the most satisfying and mutually acceptable sex.

　　Another frequently mentioned question is, “How should we respond to physical changes?” Couples always hope to regain the feeling of youth in their sexual life. In fact, they should think more about how to adapt to changes and adjust their bodies to obtain a better or different sexual experience.

　　Finally, they often ask me, “How do I tell my partner what I really need?” Some older people are afraid to tell the truth for fear of hurting their partner's feelings. Then start by confessing your feelings. For example, "I will feel better if..." or "I am older and need your touch more." This will help overcome psychological barriers.