How often should men and women have sex?

　　Some people have sex every day but still don't have a "sense of accomplishment", while some people can be satisfied once a month. So, how often is it scientific to have sex? Recently, an article in the latest issue of "Yueji" magazine in the United States pointed out: The most ideal frequency is for both husband and wife to reach an agreement on sex without sticking to a fixed pattern. The article also invited a number of American sexology experts to comment and provide guidance on different sexual frequency.

　　Once a night. Expert comments: I admire your extraordinary energy, but don’t “have sex for the sake of sex” and ignore emotions. John Gagnon, a professor of sociology at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, suggests that in the past month, pay attention to the time and frequency of sex, and discuss with your partner whether the frequency of sex is appropriate, and strive to satisfy both the physical and mental aspects.

　　Twice a week. Expert comments: This is the "standard sex frequency" that many people adhere to, but Dr. Eric Jensen, an expert at the Institute of Sexology at Indiana University, said that this is actually not scientific. The truly scientific frequency of sex is determined based on physical needs and the emotions of both parties. After a couple has lived together for a long time, the frequency of sex will form a habit, and it is easy to become more form than substance. At this time, couples should learn to break the routine, such as changing the fixed time and place.

　　Two or three times a month. Expert comment: If both people accept this frequency, then there is no need to worry too much. Mary Urapini, a psychosexual therapist in Houston, USA, said that for some couples, quality trumps quantity in their sex life. Especially after the age of 40, a quality sex session is better than daily passion. Activities such as learning new things and going on adventures together will bring the couple closer together, improve intimacy, and make sex happen naturally.

　　Once a month. Expert comments: When a couple only has sex once a month, both parties need to have a frank sex conversation. Experts point out that at this time it is likely that one party has a physical or emotional problem, but the relationship between the couple can still be maintained. Both parties should solve the problem through communication, such as the wife making greater efforts in sex, and the husband being willing to lower his sex requirements, etc.

　　Several times a year. Expert comments: Mary Urapini said that low sexual desire at this time may be the main reason. In fact, most of them are male Troubled by sexual problems. “There are many causes, such as hormone levels, stress, etc. Men are often taboo about talking about their reduced libido because it is an integral part of "masculinity." In fact, regardless of whether men or women experience reduced sexual desire, they should face the reality and seek medical treatment in time.