What did women gain from that first night?

　　Even now, women do not face it with the same desire and pleasure that men do.

　　“"Sex with men is dangerous." This is the warning that every girl who has just understood the relationship between men and women gets from all sides. However, this is the "forbidden zone" that every woman who falls in love will inevitably enter in the end.

　　Let’s think back to the beginning of our relationship. He found you among thousands of people and fell in love with you. You often receive flowers from him and answer his calls several times a day, just because he wants to hear your voice, or because he just heard something funny and is eager to tell you to make you laugh.

　　Although deep in your heart, you are full of attachment to this attentive lover and longing for his caress, a rational voice keeps reminding you in your ears: Try to postpone the arrival of that moment. Because people who have been here say that once you cross that line, the situation is completely different.

　　So, you make little jokes with him and make fun of his impatience. You carefully look for various excuses to dispel his impatient desire. Your lover is impatient with your cunning tricks and is eager to get you. He claims your ruse ruined his sleep and healthy , making him unable to do anything with peace of mind, you were slowly strangling him, and finally he even deliberately praised other girls in front of you.

　　Your defenses are finally breached. You had sex. Making love makes you ecstasy. The world looked so beautiful that the original warnings became nonsense. You are full of energy, light on your feet, and everything seems to be out of the question. You feel that women are not passive at all during sex.

　　You enjoy the wonderful joy of men and women in the world, and try your best to continue this happiness. But I don’t know since that day, he no longer calls you at the agreed time. Sometimes he will lose his temper at you over trivial matters, and even tell you that he and his ex-girlfriend have been in contact recently. The pink auspicious cloud above your head is inlaid with a leaden edge.

　　The huge sexual manipulation power you had over your boyfriend is now clearly diminished. He used to call you several times a day; now, you wait for his call for days. In the past, when you were late for a date, he was extremely anxious, thinking that you had changed your mind and left him behind. Now the situation is just the opposite. After a rare date with him, the next date seems to be far away, and your self-esteem makes you shy to mention it.

　　Like most men, he has a vague idea of ​​the future. Apart from the fact that he wants to watch a certain movie or try a new restaurant in a while, his more distant plan is to spend some time with you and go on vacation somewhere for a week, but your thoughts have already flown ahead of a year or ten years. While he's looking for cheap flights on vacation, you're already looking for an apartment that's suitable for the two of you. When he mentioned that you would go to many places to play together in the future, you had already begun to think about what name you would give your child.

　　You and him, men and women are so different. After each sex, he would rinse his body under the faucet with exhausted satisfaction, and fall asleep a few minutes later, as if he had just won a ball game. But you were tossing and turning, unable to sleep. You analyze his performance, his attitude towards you, and look forward to some things in the future. In this supposedly happiest moment in your life, your thoughts are like a third-level detective.

　　You think with some sadness that you used to control everything about him, but ever since you crossed that line, your sweet control over him has gone forever. Maybe what you gained in exchange was the illusion of short-term sexual satisfaction, but what you lost was carefree freedom.

　　Men have been proud of their sexual organs since childhood. They admire it, show it off, compare their own with others, and in addition to its own function, it seems to be connected to the outside world. A woman's genitals are hidden deep inside her body, and when women are little girls they know they are special and secret. As they grow up, it becomes clearer that women's sex lives are completely different from men's.

　　Women will get pregnant, suffer from childbirth or abortion, and at that moment, men may or may not be around. Some of them can help you, some of them can't, and women have to bear everything. So women must be extra careful. Contraceptives must be effective and germs must be avoided. Women go to great lengths to remove the secretions that men leave on their bodies. Although they love men, men are a group of daredevils who always wander away from them. Most of them are irresponsible and rarely understand the impact of having sex with women. They need sex voraciously but forget it quickly.