What to do if you lose your sexual desire?

　　Lauman, a professor of sociology at the University of Chicago, believes that there are many reasons for loss of sexual desire. male Generally speaking, it generally includes three aspects of problems. One is worrying about one's own performance, such as the duration is not long enough and the erection is not hard enough.； The second is to reach climax prematurely, including Premature ejaculation ； Third, heavy work burden, excessive mental pressure caused by sudden changes in living environment, and diseases that affect sexual desire and erectile status. disease . right female Generally speaking, it is more likely to be a matter of mental stress, causing a lack of sex. According to Laumann, only 26% of women always experience orgasm during sex. “Some men are always trying to please their partners, and the pressure makes them unable to feel the pleasure of sex, and thus lose their sexual desire. In addition, couples who are emotionally distant or too close may also stifle sexual desire. For example, some men respect their wives very much. In order not to affect their fertility or take care of the next generation, they will deliberately withhold their desires. Over time, this will also lead to loss of sexual desire. ”》》》》》

　　Lowman believes that if you have lost interest in sex for more than three months, you should be wary. In order to detect and prevent this problem early, American sexology experts put forward 7 warning signs for men and women: only have contact in the bedroom ； Not feeling a sense of union and sharing from sex ； In a couple, one person always takes the initiative, while the other person is always passive and helpless, feeling forced. ； No longer looking forward to sex ； Sex life becomes mechanical and routine ； Lack of sexual fantasies about lover ； Have sex once or twice a month at most.

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　　How can we get people back on their feet? Experts gave 8 guidance methods:

　　1. Exercise stimulates sexual desire. This relaxes people and brings a sense of accomplishment and energy, boosting people's sexual confidence.

　　2. Don’t have too high sexual expectations. Not every sex has to be perfect, only 40% to 50% of sex lives can satisfy both parties. In addition, the frequency of sex is not the only criterion for sexual desire. It is normal to feel good before, after and during sex.

　　3. Sexual fantasies. Marriage experts agree that sexual fantasies are a good thing. This can increase the pleasure of "old couples" and heat up the unchanging sex.

　　4. Create an atmosphere.

　　5. Focus on the process. Both men and women should spend time touching each other tenderly and not get to the point.

　　6. Communicate and discuss. Couples should communicate about how to improve their sexual desire. They can read a sex book together to let each other know that they are looking for ways to make sex better.

　　7. Attend more parties with your partner. When you go out to dinner with friends, you have the opportunity to see a new side of your partner and remember how fun and exciting she or he is. Similarly, the other party also has the opportunity to see your shining points. In this way, you will remember why you were attracted to each other and came together in the first place.

　　8. If none of the above methods work, you should see a doctor promptly to check and treat related diseases that cause loss of sexual desire.