5 common bed panic attacks in men

　　①I'm afraid you won't respond

　　Sex is the most intimate emotional and physical communication between lovers. It is a simultaneous dialogue between the spirit and the body. When making love, men always like to hear a few words of encouragement, or hear and see your clear response, whether it is your voice or body movements. If you keep silent and let him sweat profusely, as if you are leaving him in the sun, he will feel that your silence is a kind of protest, dissatisfaction or carelessness.

　　Peter, a 30-year-old writer, said: “Sometimes my girlfriend and I suddenly become silent when we have sex, and I think I must be doing a bad job. So I started to think wildly and didn't understand where I was wrong, so I was completely out of mood. ”

　　Some men say that when a woman's body no longer moves with their rhythm, they feel terrified, like swimming desperately in an unknown depth of sea. Mike, a 27-year-old teacher, said: “Sometimes we choose a good posture and feel completely integrated with each other without reservation, but she suddenly stops moving. I feel very strange and just want to call it a day. ”

　　Believe it or not, sometimes it is your neglect that makes your man lose interest in an instant. Dr. Schiller said: "Deep in his heart, men always worry about not being able to satisfy their women. If he doesn't get your reaction in time, he'll immediately doubt himself. The best thing to do is to be honest about how you feel.

　　If you like, feel free to moan happily or give him a gentle pat on the shoulder. If yelling isn't your style, move your body to his rhythm, like a waltz at his pace, and your spin will be his source of motivation. ”

　　②menstrual phobia

　　No matter what men say, they lose their senses when they see blood. Mark, a 25-year-old welder, said: “One time when I was having sex with her, I noticed that she was bleeding. She had just had her menstruation, and I seemed to have suffered a big blow, and I couldn’t do it all at once. ”

　　Dr. Schiller said: "Many men believe that blood is unclean and harmful. If you don't know how he will react, it's best to tell him in advance: 'Honey, I just had my period, do you think it will be a hindrance?'" He will definitely appreciate your candor and avoid possible friction.

　　③I heard about your past

　　You have a lot to share in bed: telling stories, getting massages, eating ice cream. But don't tell him how great your past boyfriend was in bed.

　　Jerry, a 30-year-old scientist, said: “Once I was with my girlfriend, and she told me that her ex-boyfriend was very sexy, and she told me in detail, even where he had a hemorrhoid. Why do I need to know this? Later, every time I had sex with her, another shadow would appear in my mind. I always felt that other men were stronger than me and could please her better. ”

　　You should talk to him like a good friend or a parent. It is enough to let him know that you have been in love before. As for the details, just keep them in your stomach.

　　④Don't let him touch your vitals

　　Most men like to kiss a woman's body, including the most private parts, and your refusal will only arouse his suspicion. Jason, a 30-year-old filmmaker, said: “Every time I tried to get close to her vital parts, she always pushed me back. I'm hurt. ”

　　Peggy explains: “It’s not surprising, men like to do things that are new to women. When a woman refuses to accept it, a man will feel that she is actually still withholding her most precious things from him and is unwilling to give herself completely to him. ”

　　Whether you are embarrassed or not in the mood, you have to choose the best way to communicate with him. Don't push him aside or refuse him outright, try touching him passionately and naturally guide him to have sex the way you like.

　　⑤dawdling

　　Do you always find an excuse to hide in the bathroom to touch up your makeup on dates? Do you know what men think about this? Mitch, a 29-year-old graduate student said: "The first time I went on a date with her, she ran to the bathroom. I waited outside for a long time, even finished reading a magazine, but she hadn't come out yet. I started to wonder what on earth she was doing in there. Did she fall? Another 15 minutes later she came back, and nothing seemed to have happened. Everything about me felt wrong from that point on. ”

　　The only way to avoid letting his mind wander is if you're in the bathroom getting dressed or getting ready, don't take your time. And it's better to tell him what you're doing.