Women who cry more can relieve stress

　　There are two kinds of tears

“Anthropologists have discovered that crying is an innate human instinct, as spontaneous as sighing or sneezing. ”Zhang Yuanxia, ​​a licensed psychologist in New York, USA, said that William Frye, a psychologist at the University of Minnesota, USA, once studied tearing behavior from the perspective of physiological psychology.

Over a five-year period, he studied thousands of tearful subjects and showed that within a month, men flow of people The number of tears rarely exceeds 7 times, while for women it is more than 30 times. According to the motivation of crying, he divided tears into reflex tears (such as being stimulated by onions) and emotional tears.

Emotional tears are what we usually call real crying. For example, we often see couples crying at weddings, crying when arguing with others, and bursting into tears at funerals. Zhang Yuanxia analyzed: "From a psychological perspective, real crying is based on the four basic human emotions - joy, anger, sadness, and fear. This is all because people's emotions are stimulated by the outside world and affect their hearts. When these emotions accumulate to a certain level, they will inevitably show natural expressions of emotions. ”

Too many tears are useless

Tears protect the human body healthy Useful, especially for emotional tears. In his research, Frye found that real tears contain more protein, one of which may have an effect similar to an analgesic, so he speculated that crying from the heart can help people restore their psychological and physical balance.

“There are also studies showing that female Compare male In addition to the enhancement of immunity brought about by childbirth, longevity also contributes to the proper expression of emotions, of which crying is an important aspect. ”Zhang Yuanxia added.

But you can't let your tears flow everywhere. There is a famous "James Rank Theory" in the field of psychology, which believes that people first perceive facts, then cause physical changes, and finally affect emotions.

Therefore, crying incessantly will make the sad feeling more and more intense. Finally, I would like to remind those who use tears as a weapon that everyone has a period of psychological fatigue. Crying once or twice can capture the hearts of others, but if you use it too much, people will get used to it, and the effectiveness of crying will inevitably be reduced. It may even arouse the disgust of others, or make people doubt your ability.

　Tears are a tool

In addition, tears are also a tool. When confronting others or wanting to obtain some kind of benefit, many people will use tears to gain initiative.

“Some people shed tears to gain sympathy and escape reality. ”Zhang Yuanxia said that in the workplace, some people make mistakes at work, so they cry before the leader criticizes them. They believe that from the leader's perspective, shedding tears shows that they are heartbroken and have deeply reflected on the situation.

At this moment, the leader will inevitably be soft-hearted. After all, it is difficult to make people angry with Chu Chu's pitiful appearance. “Just like some insects, they will huddle up and pretend to be dead when they encounter danger. This kind of "escape through mimicry" is similar to the mentality of this kind of people. ”Zhang Yuanxia added.

Some people take the initiative to show weakness in order to change themselves from passive to active. The competition between Hillary and Obama was very fierce. When she talked about the difficulty of running in New Hampshire on January 8, she shed tears with emotion. This helped her win the support of female voters to a certain extent.

Zhang Yuanxia said: "I don't want to explore whether Hillary did it intentionally or couldn't help it. I just want to learn from this." news In , we see her taking the initiative to show women's fragility and arousing women's empathy. In fact, this is a psychological game, using retreat to advance, leaving yourself more room for advancement, so as to take the initiative in competition. ”