Stress Management Maturity Questionnaire

Maturity of stress management has never been a single standard of "whether you can control your emotions and handle things", but it is a dynamic matching result of your perception, adaptation and transformation ability to stress. There is no perfect answer. Different schools of psychology's scores on the same behavior may be more than 30 points, and ordinary people have reached the standard as long as they can "not be disturbed by stress".

The reason why I deliberately put the conclusion at the forefront is because I have seen too many people who have been subjected to a messy online stress test PUA. When they are clearly living a good life, they feel anxious and feel that they have psychological problems. Last week, a girl who was engaged in e-commerce operation came to see me, saying that she had to hide in the fire escape and cry for 10 minutes every day after receiving the project in double 11. She took the online celebrity test and said that her stress management ability was zero, but when she turned her head, she made clear the schedule of the three live broadcast rooms in her hand, and the pre-sale amount increased by 40% compared with last year-you said she had poor stress management? Come on, she has at least 75 points.

There is no standard answer in the following questionnaire. Just choose the state that you appear most often, and don't choose the option that looks more right:

1. What's your first reaction when you are suddenly told that the plan to be handed in tomorrow will be handed in after work today?

A. With a buzz in my head, brush my mobile phone for 10 minutes before starting work.

B. Prioritize immediately, cut off the unimportant parts and make a complete framework first.

C. I began to be irritable on the spot, and I couldn't help but vomit with my colleagues for half an hour before I could calm down.

2. I quarreled with my family last week. What will you do at work this week?

A. It's completely unaffected. What should I do?

B. I can't help but think of it when I'm free. It's a little annoying but I don't delay my work

C. I am always distracted, and the number of small mistakes is 2-3 times more than usual.

3. after working overtime for a week in a row, will you?

A. I slept all day on weekends, but I still feel tired when I wake up.

B: No matter how busy you are, take an hour to go out for a walk/exercise and eat something you usually can't bear to eat.

C. Revenge the phone until 3 am, and wake up more tired the next day.

4. The leader pointed out the mistakes in your work in public, would you?

A. My face burned on the spot, and I couldn't wait for the next half day.

B. Write down the questions first, and then find a friend to spit out a few words after work and forget it.

C. argue with the leader on the spot and feel that he doesn't understand the actual situation.

5. The project in hand is yellow, will you?

A.lie at home for two days and don't want to do anything.

B: Answer the questions first, and then invite friends to have a good flip.

C. Everyone told me how bad the project was and complained for days.

6. Seeing that your colleague's performance is much better than yours, would you?

A. I'm a little envious, but I turn my head and do my own thing.

B. I couldn't help being anxious and began to work overtime to catch up with the progress.

C. I feel that the other party must have gone through the back door and felt uncomfortable.

7. When you are stressed, you can't help eating a lot of junk food/ brushing short videos for a long time. Will you afterwards?

A. I feel particularly guilty and feel that my self-control is too poor.

B. I feel quite normal, and I should do whatever I want when I get over it.

C. the broken jar broke and fell, and it remained in this state for the next few days.

8. You have piled up three jobs at hand, and the leader has given you new tasks. Would you?

A. next, stay up late and finish it.

B. Make clear the workload at hand with the leader and discuss whether it can be postponed or divided out.

C. Refuse on the spot, feeling that the leader deliberately targeted you.

9. When you have insomnia, do you?

A. The more anxious you are, the more you can't sleep, tossing and turning until dawn.

B. Get up and sit down for a while, read some useless idle books, and sleep when you are sleepy.

C. Keep brushing your mobile phone until you can't bear it.

10. People around you are saying, "You should work hard in a bad environment". Would you?

A. I am so anxious that I always feel that I am going to be eliminated.

B. Have your own rhythm, work hard and have a rest.

C. I think it's all selling anxiety, which is totally irrelevant.

By way of digression, when I helped my peers to correct this questionnaire, a big brother who was engaged in building materials sales filled in the third question and threw a pen directly, saying, "I don't care if he is mature or not, I won't be under pressure if I bill this month." In fact, there is nothing wrong with this statement. At present, there is no unified conclusion on the judgment standard of stress management in the psychological field. You can score different schools of counselors with the same option, and the result can be a whole grade. I have compiled a scoring comparison of common behaviors for your reference:

I have been doing EAP consultation in enterprises for 4 years, and I have seen too many people who look like "full marks in stress management": they are always emotionally stable, always able to carry things, and never show negative emotions. As a result, the physical examination reports a bunch of nodules, or they suddenly collapse one day and can't get up at home for half a month. Last month, a 32-year-old product manager came to see me. The CBT school gave him a score of 88 for stress management, which was properly excellent, but the psychoanalytic school only gave him a score of 42-all his emotions were suppressed to the subconscious, and he had to take 2 melatonin every day to fall asleep, even in his dreams, he was changing his needs. Later, he took a half-month vacation and went to Yunnan to ride a bike. After returning, he occasionally vomited in front of his colleagues, "Is this demand made by people?" On the contrary, the error rate has dropped a lot and my sleep has been much better.

Seriously, don't take any standard cards. I've seen people who get 90 points lose an express emo all day, and people who get 40 points can laugh and have a farewell dinner with their colleagues when they are laid off by the company, and then turn around and find a better job. Stress management is a particularly personal matter. Some people cry for ten minutes when they are stressed, some people have to run five kilometers, and some people can turn over the page after eating a hot pot, as long as it doesn't affect your normal eating, sleeping and working, and it doesn't hurt yourself and the people around you.

Oh, yes, finally, a small criterion can be added, which can be used without counting points: after you lie in bed at night, you won't think about what you didn't do well today, you can fall asleep in a down-to-earth way, and you are willing to get up and go to work the next day, no matter whether you cry, laugh or fish when you are under pressure, you have passed.