The sexual concept of women’s pure devotion

　　Is this because sexual knowledge is hard to come by? I'm afraid not. Since the reform and opening up, there have been more than 200 sexology books published in my country, and almost every one of them talks about these topics to a greater or lesser extent. common sense . but female There are very few readers, even fewer female buyers, and very few women disseminating such knowledge. On the one hand, many people still believe that women will become a "disaster" if they have sexual knowledge. Some women who bought such a book were attacked by their husbands and parents. Even after experts and scholars affirmed it, they were still threatened with divorce. On the other hand, although married middle-aged women do not discuss their sexual life in private, most of them comment on their husbands. Very few of them talk about taking the initiative to learn sexual knowledge and being able to use scientific knowledge to filter their private sexual life.

　　Information circulated (mostly false) about women is even rarer.

　　One of the main reasons why they feel the need but do not learn is that many wives feel that since their husbands dominate their sexual life, he should learn sexual knowledge, be responsible for the harmony of sexual life, and even just work hard to satisfy themselves. After all, wives often "follow the chicken when they marry a chicken, and follow a dog when they marry a dog" in their sexual life. Now that I have fulfilled my obligation of "dedication", he should take on the responsibility of promoting harmony. Some wives simply said: “This kind of thing all depends on meeting a good husband. ”’Others have risen to the level of theories: “The fundamental issue is to transform men. ”

　　This simple "devotion" concept of sex will bring several undesirable consequences:

　　l. When her husband encounters violence or even sexual abuse, the wife lacks both the inner motivation to resist and the knowledge and methods to promote change. When people have general sexual disharmony, the wife tends to blame her husband too much, which in turn aggravates the conflict.

　　2 In self-doubt Yangkang Premature ejaculation Among husbands, a considerable number of them are actually caused or aggravated by their wives' blaming.

　　3. Even if the sex life goes well, it is difficult for a wife who is simply "dedicated" to experience its fun and value. Instead, it will lead to indifference and alienation, which will naturally aggravate the poverty of feelings and eventually form a vicious circle.

　　4. Even if the relationship is relatively coordinated, the wife may lack the internal motivation to continuously improve and improve. In the long run, it will easily lead to psychological fatigue (boredom, desirelessness, avoidance, etc.) for both parties.