Why do men have virginity complex?

　　The topic I want to talk about is: Leave your first time to the man who got your marriage certificate with you!

　　First , a girlfriend has no obligation to satisfy her boyfriend’s sexual desires! ! Don't think that just because he calls you wife every day, you really think you are his wife. When your boyfriend makes a request in that regard to you, if you are not very happy, you must use euphemistic language and a firm attitude to refuse. Don't be fooled by his words such as: We will get married anyway, isn't it the same anytime? ； If you don't do it with me, you don't love me (this is the provocative method) ； Or feel soft because of his pitiful appearance and pleading (although this is difficult to do, after all, you really love him), but remember the song sung by Zhou Hui: Sometimes being soft-hearted is a kind of misery, pushing yourself into the abyss! It is true that there will be some discomfort, but it is not as exaggerated as they show, and it is completely controllable. It will depend on your attitude. If you show a little softness, he will become Bengali. And they will ask you more frequently. It’s even harder for you to say no. "I even heard that some boys lied to girls, saying that if they don’t have sex with them, their erections will stay erect, and some girls actually believe it, which is really pitiful.") If he really loves you, he will love you more and cherish you because of your reserve and independence, because you will be more sacred and noble in his mind, and you will become more charming and attractive. ； If you do, he will temporarily express his gratitude and be surprisingly nice to you, but please don't be too happy. If one day you reject him again, his face will often make you feel chilled! Moreover, after doing it, I fell into passivity! ! Who doesn’t want to cherish their first time? The more you pay for him, the higher your expectations for him will be, the more you will be afraid of losing him, and the more you will accommodate him. In the eyes of many boys, this means that they have lost their character, they will feel boring, and the more they will let you down. When you have conflicts again, he won't come to apologize to you as early as before, because you are the one who can't let go! Even if you get married in the future, it is not good to develop this habit. If he leaves you for this, congratulations, you have left a person who does not love you, or even a liar who has other agendas (although such people are often very charming). I am 100% sure that you will find someone who truly loves you and is better than him! No one can survive without him. After enduring the first half year and getting out of your life with him, you will find that the truth is not what you originally thought.

　  second , if you are no longer a virgin, and after breaking up, you meet someone who you also love, and he really loves you, and you confess to him, he will still accept you, because he knows that you are not wrong, and will even think that you are innocent and a victim. It would be better if he is no longer a virgin. If he is still, I can say with absolute certainty that he will feel very uncomfortable. It will be very uncomfortable. When he closes his eyes at night Eye Sometimes, a scene of you being intimate with another boy will appear, which will make him feel uncomfortable and almost have the urge to leave you. The more he loves you and the more he feels that you are pure, the more uncomfortable he will feel. There may even be a feeling of being insulted and ridiculed by others. He would rather hit himself with a stick on the head and forget about it all. You can put yourself in his shoes and think about it. This is definitely a shadow, and it may be good, but it requires considerable effort. If he loves you, he will not tell anyone about it for the sake of your reputation. He will have to bear all the pain by himself, and he may also act very strong in front of you. But he will experience all these feelings to some extent. And you must feel very guilty and may have regrets in your heart, and what you need to do more is to comfort him. A good girl will feel very sorry for him and have to compensate him for the rest of her life, and he will also think that you did this because you owed him. And his kindness to you and his emotional investment in you will be greatly reduced. Although he will still cherish you, he will not cherish you as much as before. Can you bear to suffer such torture to the one you love?

　  third , I know that every girl cherishes her first time. But a person who wants to leave you because you don't have sex with him is more important than someone who wants to spend a lifetime with you, someone who wants to take care of you a lifetime, someone who wants to give you a home, someone who is the only one who will take you when you are sick. Hospital Compared with a person who sees a doctor in a hospital and takes care of you lovingly, a person who can understand you, comfort you, and make you happy no matter what mistakes you make or what grievances you suffer, don't you want to dedicate your most precious gift to the latter?

　  fourth , The college stage is still an unstable stage, and what the future will bring is still unpredictable. When you graduate, there are many people who fall in love but cannot be together. Although love can stimulate people's great potential, it is not a one-size-fits-all. As you grow older, it will become more and more realistic. I hope girls who have romantic fantasies about love can realize it. When we vowed to make each other, I also believed that it was true, but the cruelty of reality is also quite cruel!

　  Finally, I hope everyone can accept a point of view: keeping oneself in good health is a virtue and does not mean being feudal and backward! (I believe it is the girls themselves who benefit in the end)