self healing synonyms

Self-care, self-acceptance, inner healing； In addition, emotional self-consistency, internal integration, and self-empowerment are synonymous expressions of extensional adaptation. Different schools of psychology have different emphasis on defining the boundaries of these concepts. In fact, there is no strict right or wrong in practical application.

That being said, the definitions of different academic schools are quite different. I met a girl who had just been laid off in the consultation room before. She hid at home and cried for three days. She read dozens of "self-healing guides" and forced herself to get up early for a run, write a gratitude diary, and make plans to change careers. As a result, she suffered from insomnia on the fifth day. When she came to see me, her eyes were swollen like walnuts. I told her to stop engaging in these "must get better" processes and try self-care first - the concept proposed by Kristen Neff in positive psychology. The core is the three elements of self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness. The essence is to allow yourself to be paralyzed first, and don't call yourself useless. This school basically equates self-care with self-healing, emphasizing catching emotions first, and then talking about other things.

But if you talk to a psychoanalytic counselor, he will most likely be more inclined to use "inner repair" to correspond to the core of self-healing. Last year, when I attended a training class in China and Germany, a German psychoanalysis teacher said that many people think that the immediate relief of anxiety is healing. In fact, it is not. Real self-healing is to reintegrate the suppressed and unseen emotional fragments in the early years and repair the complex in the subconscious. Otherwise, if you get better this time and encounter similar problems next time, you will still explode. This process that points to the repair of deep trauma is more accurately called inner repair.

It's quite interesting to talk about this. Last month, several teachers in the industry salon argued for ten minutes about whether "self-empowerment is a synonym for self-healing." Teachers who do short-term focus solution think that of course it counts. The ultimate goal of therapy is to help people find the strength to deal with problems. Self-empowerment is to implement the results of therapy. You can't just finish the therapy or shrink when things happen, right? Immediately some teachers with a humanistic orientation retorted, saying that this was too utilitarian. Healing itself was the goal, and there was no need to attach the requirement of "becoming great." Some people's healing was to allow themselves to remain "not great" and to impose the requirement of "must be empowered" on themselves, which was another kind of kidnapping. The two of them couldn't come to a conclusion until the end. The social worker teacher next to them tried to smooth things over, saying that it would only work for the visitor, so why bother with the name.

To be honest, we ordinary people have no need to dig into these academic definitions. Last week, my best friend had an argument with her partner. She dropped a cup and squatted on the ground for a long time to recover. Instead of scolding herself like before, "Why can't I control my emotions?", she touched her back and said, "I was really angry just now, wasn't I?" Do you think this is self-healing? Or self-acceptance? In fact, they are all right, there are no such strict boundaries.

Don't tell me, I've come across even more "outrageous" synonyms. A client who works as an Internet operator came to me with a severe sleep disorder. He had searched for various self-healing methods, and his schedule of meditation, mindfulness, and work schedule was fuller than that of work. On the contrary, the more he pushed himself, the more he could not sleep. Later, I asked him to stop all "meaningful healing methods" and leave half an hour every day for absolutely no use. He didn't need to do anything, just be in a daze or pick his fingers. He later found a routine, leaving get off work half an hour early every Wednesday afternoon and squatting by the flower bed downstairs in the community to watch stray cats fight. After watching for almost a month, his sleep score increased by 30 points. He now tells people when he meets that, for him, "meaningless emptying" is the best synonym for self-healing, and no professional term is as useful as watching cats pluck each other's fur.

In fact, the reason why there is no unified standard answer to these synonyms is essentially because everyone’s healing path is different. Some people need to catch the bad emotions of the moment first, some people need to untie the old knots from more than ten years ago, and some people need to gather enough strength to move forward. No matter what the name is, as long as you take your feelings seriously, don't twist it, don't force it, and don't kidnap yourself with the standard of "should heal well", then you are doing the same thing as self-healing - as for what it is called, does it matter?