What are the manifestations of the relationship between parenting and children's health

The impact of parenting on children's health is comprehensive. It not only covers the current physical development and psychological state, but also has a long-term effect on the health of children as adults. Even the causes of many chronic diseases in middle-aged and elderly people can be traced back to the details of parenting in infants and young children.

When I was doing child care follow-up in the community, I encountered too many similar examples. Two boys of the same month-old both inherited allergic rhinitis from their father. When they were raised at home, they were willing to follow the guidance of the child care provider. They removed dust mites once a week. They actively wore masks when the temperature changed during the seasons and when they went out in hazy days. They also taught the children the correct way to rinse their nose and mouth from an early age. They rarely forced the children to eat so-called food. "Highly nutritious" raw and cold seafood, while another always believes that "children's allergies are caused by spoiled care, and they will grow up naturally". They make ice cream casually in the winter, and let the children run outside with bare noses before going to class on dusty days. The latter has developed into allergic asthma and has to be hospitalized every time the season changes. The former can only sneeze a few times when the season changes, which basically does not affect normal schooling and outdoor activities.

But what many parents don’t realize is that the psychological impact is deeper and the consequences are more difficult to reverse. Last year, a mother brought her third-grade girl to a doctor. She said that her child kept complaining of headaches and stomachaches. She went to several hospitals for examinations but no organic problems were found. It took more than half an hour of chatting to figure out the situation. The little girl’s mother had been very strict with her since she was a child. She must eat enough food according to the nutrition table. She would become cold-blooded if she didn’t get a perfect score in the exam. "I'm doing it all for your own good" was on the lips. The child had been under high pressure for a long time and had obvious physical reactions. Later, we suggested that parents adjust their communication methods first and stop forcing their children to do what they wanted. After two months, we returned for a follow-up visit. The child's inexplicable pain had basically disappeared and he could sit still in class.

Speaking of this, some people must ask, is it true that "it is better to raise things rough than to raise them carefully", which is a hot topic on the Internet? In fact, both sides of the argument have a basis in reality. Most parents who support rough parenting have seen children who are raised too meticulously and get sick when exposed to bacteria. On the contrary, children who roam around outside every day have stronger immunity. Parents who support careful parenting also have a reason. After all, many misunderstandings about parenting can really cause irreversible harm to children. In fact, the key is never "whether to raise them thickly or thinly", but where you spend your energy - if you chase after feeding every day, even disinfect the floor at home three times, and make a fuss over the slightest bump, it will destroy the establishment of your child's own immunity. It is also easy to develop a sensitive and fragile character; if you use "fineness" to follow the child's development rhythm on time, respect the child's eating and emotional expression, and be willing to spend time listening to the child, then whether you raise it thick or thin, it will be positive for the child's health.

To be honest, parenting is like cultivating soil for a sapling that has just emerged. The water you pour, the fertilizer you apply, and whether you straighten the branches according to the growth from time to time will not only determine whether it can sprout new shoots now, but also whether it can withstand heavy rains and insect pests in the future. Now academic circles have long confirmed that bad parenting habits and long-term stress in childhood will remain in the body memory of children. This does not mean that they can be completely erased by changing the environment when they grow up. Many parents always think that "health means the absence of illness and pain", but in fact, the WHO has long defined health as a state of complete physical, psychological, and social adaptation. None of these three things can be separated from the accumulation of daily parenting.