1 year without husband and wife

One year without married life may be caused by various reasons such as physical factors, psychological factors or relationship problems, and needs to be adjusted according to the specific situation.

1. Physiological factors

The long-term lack of sexual intercourse may be related to changes in hormone levels. The decrease in estrogen during menopause in women may cause vaginal dryness, and the decrease in testosterone levels in men may affect sexual desire. Chronic conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or thyroid dysfunction may also inhibit sexual function. The side effects of some drugs, such as antidepressants and antihypertensive drugs, can interfere with sexual response. It is recommended to conduct hormone testing and basic disease screening, and adjust the medication plan under the guidance of a doctor if necessary.

2. Psychological pressure

Continuous stress such as excessive work intensity and excessive financial burden will increase cortisol levels and inhibit sexual impulses. Psychological states such as postpartum depression and anxiety can affect intimacy needs. The psychological shadow formed by past negative sexual experiences may lead to avoidance behavior. Stress can be relieved through mindfulness training, psychological counseling and other methods, and it is more effective for partners to participate in the treatment together.

3. Emotional alienation

The resentment accumulated due to long-term poor communication will weaken the sense of intimacy, and family conflicts such as imbalanced division of childcare may turn into sexual avoidance. Behaviors such as Internet addiction and over-investment in work can crowd out time for emotional communication. It is necessary to reestablish non-sexual intimate behaviors, such as regular dates, the cultivation of common interests, etc., and gradually restore the connection.

4. Lifestyle

Staying up late for a long time and being overtired will reduce gonadal function, and lack of exercise will lead to poor blood circulation. A high-sugar and high-fat diet may cause metabolic abnormalities and affect the blood supply to sexual organs. Alcohol dependence and smoking impair vascular endothelial function. It is recommended to go to bed before 23:00, do aerobic exercise three times a week, and increase the intake of deep-sea fish and nuts.

5. Special period

The physical recovery period after childbirth may last 6-12 months, and the increase in prolactin during lactation can temporarily suppress sexual desire. There is a recovery period of 3-6 months after major surgery, and some cancer treatments can cause long-term sexual dysfunction. This situation requires the medical team to develop a staged rehabilitation plan using a progressive intimate reconstruction protocol.

Improving a long-term sexless marriage requires the joint participation of both parties, starting with improving sleep quality, maintaining 30 minutes of walking and communication every day, and arranging non-sexual intimate contact twice a week. Add zinc-containing foods such as oysters and pumpkin seeds to your diet, and supplement vitamin E in an appropriate amount. If there is no improvement after 3 months of self-regulation, it is recommended to go to a regular hospital's men's department/gynecology department or a marriage counseling agency for professional evaluation. After ruling out organic diseases, cognitive behavioral therapy combined with relationship counseling can be considered. Pay attention to avoid secondary harm caused by forcibly resuming sexual life. Rebuilding trust and comfort is the key.