Famous sayings and sentences of emotion regulation

The core conclusion is for everyone first: these well-known sayings about emotional regulation are essentially "cognitive anchors" that can be quickly called by emotional practitioners of different times and schools-neither empty chicken soup nor rules that must be observed, which can be roughly divided into three categories: empirical conclusions of clinical psychologists, practical experiences in eastern and western ideological systems, and consensus experiences that ordinary people have accumulated in their lives.Using the right scene is 100 times more important than remembering the sentence itself..

When I started an emotion regulation workshop in colleges and universities before, a sophomore girl stood up and retorted that it was all nonsense like standing and talking like nothing: when her grandmother died, all her relatives surrounded her and said, "I'm sorry for your loss, but one day people will come." She just felt that everyone was forcing her not to cry, and she wouldn't listen to a word.

That's true. I also saved two pages of famous sayings in the memo before. Last time, I stayed up for three days to catch up with the project. When Party A returned all the revised version of the plan, I just found every sentence glaring and deleted the memo directly. Later, I chatted with my friends who were doing clinical work to understand that the first 90 seconds of emotion is the physiological peak period when the amygdala is in power, and nothing can get in. These sentences are never read when you are out of breath, but when you have cried enough and wiped your face and your mind is a little clearer, they will help you not to slide into the emotional abyss.

I sorted out a few that I used for myself and my visit to verify the effectiveness, and marked the applicable scenes and pit avoidance points for everyone, so as to save you from using the wrong ones instead of adding obstacles:

Speaking of it, it doesn't have to be said by experts and scholars. I have an operational friend who wrote his "famous saying on emotion regulation" on a post-it note and stuck it on the computer. There are eight words in total: "None of my business" and "None of your business", which sounds very rough and actually uses real fragrance. Last time, her leader left the work of other colleagues to her. She had been used to saying yes. She looked up at the post-it note and smiled and pushed it: "I haven't finished my KPI yet, please find him to dock with me", which saved me a lot of internal friction.

I was urged to ask for the project report when the sun burned to 39 degrees last year. At that time, I was so agitated that I wanted to smash the computer directly downstairs. Before my mind popped out, I saw what Teacher Chen Haixian said, "We don't need perfect people, we just need to be complete people." I stared at the screen for three times and slept directly for two hours. When I woke up, my mind was much clearer, and I finished writing the report in two hours, which was much more efficient than struggling to stay up all afternoon.

In fact, there are no universally applicable famous sayings about emotional regulation. These sentences can be handed down not because of how powerful the people who wrote them are, but because countless people feel that after trying them, oh, this sentence can really make me feel better. If something happens to you one day, it doesn't matter if you look through all the famous sayings. It's a big deal to scold the street, eat a hot pot with heavy oil and heavy spicy food, and sleep with your head covered, and your mood will go away. After all, the ultimate goal of adjusting your mood is never to force yourself to be a perfect person without temper, but to make yourself comfortable, right?